Mel B recently opened up about her past experiences with alleged coercive control and manipulative behavior from an ex-partner during an appearance on the Mad Sad Bad podcast. The singer shared in an unfiltered and emotional way, revealing how she was made to feel self-doubt and confusion during their relationship.
One example she recalled was about her diamond earrings. She would place them at the side of her bed, but her ex allegedly moved them and then blamed her for being irresponsible. He even told her that he had found them in the fridge, causing her to question herself and wonder if she had really put them there. This constant manipulation made her feel like she was losing her grip on reality, with her doubting everything, even small things like where she placed her coffee mug.
Mel B explained how this behavior led to a decade of self-doubt, where she felt like everything she thought was completely opposite to what was actually happening. She spoke about the emotional toll this kind of abuse can have, especially when it occurs gradually. Abusers often start with “love bombing,” acting like a perfect partner before revealing their true manipulative nature over time.
She also shared how one of the red flags she missed was the sense of not feeling “safe” in the relationship. Reflecting on her experience, she said that many survivors of similar abuse go through the same feelings, questioning how they ended up in such a situation. Mel B emphasized the importance of rebuilding oneself after such trauma and acknowledged that it was heartbreaking to look back on those years.
Her story sheds light on the insidious nature of manipulative relationships, showing how abuse can slowly erode one’s sense of self and confidence.
